I’m assuming that taking care of a parent with Alzheimer’s is like taking care of a child!

I could be wrong, since I never had any children! Based on everything that I experienced over the past two years, I think that this is the closest comparison. I have learned a lot about patience, respect, caring, compassion, love, family, and many other things that are too numerous to mention.

I have guided my mom with eating, go to the bathroom and many other daily activities. I have need to provide step by step directions to basic things that we do every day. It not just telling her to eat, but walking her through every step. i.e. in order to eat something, it could involve 10 steps; one by one to accomplish one bite. Sometimes, it only takes a couple steps of explanation.

Today was the first time that I had to help Mom clean herself after going to the bathroom. Mom does not normally know when it’s time to go to the bathroom, until it is too late. We had to clean-up and change clothes. This was the hardest task that I have had to do for my Mom (so far). I knew that I had to do it and she knew that I needed to help. I’m glad she will not remember it, but I will. I’m sure it will be easier the next time and the next time.

I know that I have to step up and be a man and do what I need to do and help her through this time of need. It’s probably harder on her than it is on me, but she can’t show it and I can’t show it either.



About Richard Kenny

My Mom has Alzheimer's and I help my Dad with caregiving!
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4 Responses to I’m assuming that taking care of a parent with Alzheimer’s is like taking care of a child!

  1. boomer98053 says:

    Comparisons such as the ones you provided have certainly been made – and caregivers will certainly acknowledge how close to parenting a child a caregiver’s role becomes. One of the caregiving tasks I found to be very similar to taking care of a child is not taking my eye off the loved one for even a second when in public; this assumes the person being cared for is mobile. My brother and his wife (early diagnosis of Alz at the age of 65) traveled on an airplane. Prior to even getting on the plane, my brother had lost track of his wife twice. He became engrossed in his IPhone and when he turned to his right, my sister-in-law was no where to be found. It’s a lengthy story on how they reconnected, but suffice it to say that if the one with Alzheimer’s is mobile, they will wander away quicker than you could think possible. As parents of young children will attest – such wandering frequently occurs. I’ve never been one for “leashing” a child, but I can certainly understand the peace of mind that doing so can provide.

    • Thanks for your comments! Yes, someone has to be with my Mom 24/7. We can’t leave the room for a minute without risk for her. Since I never had kids, I assume that some of the experiences that I am experiencing are similar to what parents experience while raising kids.

  2. familyfandango says:

    Oh hon, I’m so sorry…I didn’t realize you had written up a post too….now that I read this your tweet the other night makes even more sense. I hope you are doing ok…

    • Thanks! It was just a rough night! I know that I have to be there for Mom and will do what I need to do. It’s just difficult having to care for your Mom and do things to help her, that you never thought you would ever have to do.

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