Mom’s first day at the Adult Day Center

Today was a difficult day!

Today was the first time that we took advantage of the Adult Day Center! I took my Mom there this morning! she seemed happy and ready for the day! I cried when i walked outside! (It could have been the medication she is on to calm her down) 🙂

A friend of mine posted on Facebook that it was like my first day of school. Mom cried when the bus picked me up; I felt the same way today! I cried after I dropped my Mom off at the Adult Day Center!

I think it was hard because in some ways, I feel that I have failed with helping my parents. I know that I’m doing everything that I can, but sometimes I feel that it’s not enough.

I don’t ever want her to resent me for not being able to be there all the time for her. I don’t want her to think that I don’t care and just kicked her to the curb. I never want to put her in a home! I feel like this is a good step to get her out of the house, give my dad a break and give her a chance to interact more with others. I think by leveraging the Adult Day Center, we will be able to keep her at home and give her a great quality of life. I also think it will help reduce my Dad’s stress level.

I know my Dad has been having a hard time with my Mom (24 x 7) being a caregiver.

We are starting with 2 days a week at the adult day center at the Alzheimer’s Association, Northwest Ohio Chapter.

I’m thankful that they have an amazing staff that has made it easier to leave my Mom in their hands. It’s nice to know most of the team; I have been actively involved with the association and on the Board.

Mom seemed happy when I dropped her off! Dad said he did not want to drop her off; it would have been really hard for him. It was hard for me.

I don’t think my Dad knew what to do today! this is the first time that they have really been apart in a long time.

Dad went back to pick her up at 5! She forgot she was there a few minutes later. When she got home, she seemed in good spirits! The good thing; she did not throw her purse at my Dad or me!


We are going to go again on Friday! I home this helps my Dad get a little break. I also hope that my Mom enjoys the adult day center, activities and meeting other people.


About Richard Kenny

My Mom has Alzheimer's and I help my Dad with caregiving!
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One Response to Mom’s first day at the Adult Day Center

  1. boomer98053 says:

    I think what you have done is a wonderful thing. Adult Day Centers provide an extraordinary respite for caregivers/family members AND provide somewhat of a respite to the patient from his/her caregivers/family members. As you stated, this is a wonderful interim method of allowing your mother to age in place in her home. I hope its positive effects are long-standing.

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