Mom and her flying purse! #EndALZ

This was the day of the flying purse! My Mom has a good arm! I have never seen her toss a purse so many times in a short period of time with amazing speed.

I’m not sure if I should weigh down the purse to make it harder to throw; or take everything heavy out of it, so it does not hurt as much! πŸ™‚

The day started out bad and took most of the day to get better! Mom did not know who my Dad was all day.

Mom woke up wanting to go see her Mom! Sometimes, I’m not sure if she is just testing me or does not know. She asked questions differently to see how I answer. I think she is trying to catch me in a lie! πŸ™‚ She kept telling me “if I do not tell her the truth, she will be mad at me for a long time”.

Deep down inside, I think she knows her Mom is no longer with us. But, she does not really want to know the answer!

Mom asked where her Mom was! I said she was not with us anymore! I always try to gauge the best approach, by how she asks the question. Sometimes, she responds “I knew that, just wanted to make sure”. This time I guessed wrong! My Mom got very angry and vocal! If we were charging $.25 for each curse word; I would have made enough to make my truck payment! πŸ™‚ That is a lot of curse words! πŸ™‚

I think the purse would have been flying no matter how I answered the question about her Mom!

She tossed her purse at my Dad, me, the wall, chair and poor coffee pot at least a dozen times!

Mom was mad that no one told her that her Mom was dead! It took a couple hours to get her calmed down and onto other subjects! She wanted to call every family member, the mortician and a few other people! πŸ™‚

I am thankful we have great family friends to help! Took my Mom for a drive! We drove around town until I could get her calm. We tried to go to Wendy’s for lunch, but Mom was cursing so much that I decided we will drive around a little longer.

One of our family friends called and asked if we wanted to come over! I said yes! πŸ™‚ (Who would be crazy enough to say no!) We went over and Chris was able to keep mom calm! I left and went back to work! Another enjoyable lunch hour at work! πŸ™‚ Later, their friends came over and they had donuts.

My Sister Dawn came over for a short visit with Mom and Dad! She had her dog with her! This was a good distraction for Mom!

We went out for dinner and Mom asked again about calling her Mom. I said that we could call her tomorrow! Mom said is she still with us? (She tricked me again) I said that Grandma was no longer with us. After realizing this was the wrong response; I quickly started to divert and distract her. This was no easy task, but successful after 30 minutes. (So I thought!)

Back home on the couch:
Mom: Can I call my Mom?
Me: We can go see her!
Mom: Where is she at?
Me: We can go see her tomorrow!
Mom: I want to see my Mom!
Me: okay! Can we do it tomorrow?
Mom: why not today!
Me: It’s too late!
Mom: It’s only 6:30pm
Me: It’s dinner time! Maybe after dinner!
Mom: okay!

Mom took a nap on the couch next to me! I think we finally dropped that subject! It’s now 7:30 and if the topic comes up again; I will be able to say it’s too late to call and we can all tomorrow!

Good end to the day! I think Mom will be going to sleep soon!

Note to self: I will always divert and distract! I hate lying to Mom, but have to adjust my thinking!


About Richard Kenny

My Mom has Alzheimer's and I help my Dad with caregiving!
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